Why I’m Doing This?

I've been asked numerous times: "How can you two be together over 20 years and have never had an argument or a fight?", "Doesn't your age difference cause a problem?", "How can the two of you still be so crazy for each other after all this time?", "What do you mean you two fell in love without even knowing what the other looked like?", "It's impossible to fall in love so madly after only talking for a month.", "There has to be something that annoys you about the other.", "What do you mean that you have no secrets?", "Don't you get tired of spending so much time together?"... etc. etc. etc.

So I thought I would share most of the over 3,000 email we shared in an 8 month time period before we could finally be together permanently and eventually get married.  There are really no secrets other than my personal rules for my life:

• Don’t lie or keep secrets. Remember the old saying: “Honesty is the best policy”.
• Accept the fact that neither of you is perfect.
• Eliminate all expectations of each other but one: “I expect you to just accept me as I am and love me.”
• Always think of the other ones happiness before your own.
• Support each other unconditionally.
• Love each other unconditionally.
• Learn what “unconditionally” really means. 😁
• Communication!!! Active listening and telling each other everything.
• Say “I Love You” to each other often throughout the day.
• Put an “I Love You note” in their lunch, on their computer monitor, put a Hershey’s kiss on their keyboard.
• No mind games or head games EVER.
• Neither of you are psychic, never say to someone: “If they really loved me, they’d know what I want for a gift.” If you don’t ever tell them, how are they supposed to know? Use s “wish list” and tell them where it is.
• Whenever they walk by, lovingly touch each other unexpectedly. (every time) 😍
• Hug, kiss, cuddle at every opportunity, you never know when it’s your last. (life is short).
• Always kiss, say good-bye, and I love you when one of you has to go out.
• They should also be your best friend. If you don’t like them as a friend, you have nothing to build love on. It’s like the foundation of a house. You’ll have nothing but trouble if you build your house on sand. Have a strong foundation of friendship.
• They say opposites attract. I find that annoying. It’s better to have as many similarities as possible.
• Never cheat. That causes pain that will last your entire life. If you truly love someone, all others become invisible to you in that way.

I know that it may sound like a lot, but it will become a habit before you know it and well worth the investment.  I also understand that there are exceptions.  My in-laws couldn't be further apart in differences, but they make it work.  It's a mystery  to everyone, but it's solid and good.  Relationships take work on both sides.  Marriage is even more work.  You need to be self-aware and aware of each other.  Love needs nurture and care or it can evaporate like water if left unattended.  Soulmates/Twin Flames are hard to find, but when you do, be grateful.  There are no guarantees in life.  This type of love may end up nauseating your friends and family, but that's their problem, not yours.  That stems from jealousy.  Trust your heart and don't listen to the ones that try to tell you different.  Trust your own heart and that of your partner.

I told Jason up front... If your love for me changes and you want something else, be upfront with it to avoid something much worse.  If you want to leave me... tell me... I won't force you to love me.  I will help you pack your bags and walk you out the door.  I will always love you even if you don't love me anymore and I will always want the best for you.  I will always want you to be happy and loved... even if I'm not the one.  I could never stop loving you... EVER!!!

I'm not telling you that this is what you have to do in order to be happy.  I'm just telling you what has worked for us and why I'm the happiest woman on the planet.  I don't have money, or a house, or anything fancy and it doesn't mean anything to me.  All I want in life is to be happy and love my soulmate as he loves me.  I don't care what he does for a living... I don't care what he can buy me... I only want for us to be together always and where we live is irrelevant as long as we're together and love each other.  "Stuff" has no value to me.

So, as you can see, the reason I'm doing this is to show others what worked for Jason and I.  Maybe it can work for others as well.  I am by no means a professional.  I have endured pain from the day I was born, and found such joy and happiness that I never knew existed, by taking a chance, sacrifice, and taken a giant risk.  Life is too short to waste it on those that don't love you as you should be loved.  It feels amazing to love someone and give them your entire heart, mind, body, and soul and to have that exact same given back to you.  I want everyone in the world to be able to feel this and live this.  Everyone deserves it.  ❤️

Introduction

The Date is November 17, 1996.  These are the early days of the public internet.  Meet Jason Bleazard (from Salt Lake City, Utah in the United States) and Norah Kiraly (from Toronto, Ontario Canada).  Two lost, lonely, and disillusioned souls that accidentally found each other on an internet mailing list for their type of trucks – Dodge Dakota.

Jason joined The Dakota Mailing List to find information on his truck.  Soon after Norah  joined the  same  list to learn more about her truck so she would be better informed when taking it in for service.

It was just a matter of time before these two people that shared more in common than just the Dakota would meet, become close friends, and fall in love.  In fact, it was going to happen in a much faster time frame than either of them could possibly imagine.

It all started when Norah posted a simple question to the DML… “What do I do with all the snow in the back of my truck?”  Follow their destiny in the following chapters of their e-mail connection, during the early days of the Internet where everything was fresh and new to discover.

Chapter Installments will be coming soon.  Visit often to find out what happens next.

Table of Contents

Chapter 1 – Finding
available now

Chapter 2 – Friendship
available now

Chapter 3 – Fanning a Flame
available now

Chapter 4 – Falling
coming soon

Chapter 5 – Fear

Chapter 6 – Frustration

Chapter 7 – Fireworks

Chapter 8 – Fallen

Chapter 9 –

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